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Newsletter: February 13th 2007

In this issue of the Christian Marriage
Secrets Newsletter...

- A Note From The Editors, Robert & Susan Irwin
- This Week’s Christian Marriage Quote
- This Week’s Sexual Relationship Tip
- This Week’s Christian Marriage Secrets Article
- This Week’s Recommended Resource
- Who are Robert & Susan Irwin?
- Removal Instructions
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By Relationship Coaches & Christian Authors:

Robert & Susan Irwin

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When Your Husband Is Never In The Mood:
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February 13th, 2007

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This Weeks Christian Marriage Recommended
Resource:

"Ask your way to intimacy..."

After a few years of marriage, you probably think
that you know everything about your spouse. Do
you really?

This Valentine's week, you are probably planning
some special "alone time" with your better half.
Don't let yourself run out of things to talk
about!

Michael Webb's "1000 Questions for couples: What
you absolutely MUST know about the person you are
with" is the perfect source for interesting
"conversation starters."

This great little book will help you to learn
what you absolutely must know about your spouse.

This book is going to make those difficult
questions much easier to ask.

A special bonus that I really liked was the
option to get 3-5 of the book's questions emailed
to you each day.

While there are a lot of questions in this book
that are crucial for couples in the dating stage,
the majority of the questions are useful for
people who have been married for some time.

If you value your relationship, I urge you to ask
these 1000 Questions for Couples.

You can find this book here:

http://www.christian-sex.net/questions/index.html

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Robert & Susan’s News and Notes:

We've Updated our Christian Sex Blog!

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reference to The Song of Solomon (2:16). “My
beloved is mine, and I am his:he feedeth among
the lilies.” I think the title well expresses our
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Robert

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This Week’s Christian Marriage Secrets Quote:

Remember what the guy asked his wife? He said,
"How come God made you women so beautiful & yet
so dumb?" Remember her wise answer? "Beautiful
enough so you'll want to marry us, & dumb enough
for us to marry you!"
~Author Unknown

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This Week’s Sexual Relationship Tip:

"Take advantage of our Valentine's Day Gifts..."

If you haven't taken advantage of our free
Valentine's day gifts to you, be sure to go get
them! They will make your Valentine's week more
fun.

As a special, limited-time, Valentine's day gift,
we are giving you, free of charge, Michael Webb's
great little e-books, "101 Romantic Ideas" and
"Sexy Coupons."

If you haven't already received them as part of
one of our bundles, you NEED to get them! They
will give you great ideas for Valentines week to
make it spicier.

And, did I mention that they are free?

You can find the link for these free gifts here:

http://www.achristiansexsite.com/?p=27

Robert

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This weeks Christian Marriage Relationship
Article:

How Do We Love?
by Elizabeth Marks

Wouldn't it be nice if there was an easy formula
to follow to express love to you spouse? How
interesting. When I began that sentence I thought
for sure I would answer YES. On second thought,
NO it wouldn't be nice if there was a formula. A
major part of relationships is discovery. If we
knew exactly how to love our spouse, we'd fall
into compliancy because there would be no room to
grow.

Think about when you were first dating your
spouse. No doubt you spent countless hours
together talking about everything under the sun,
as I did. It was fascinating to learn of someone
else's experiences in life. It was equally
exhilarating to talk about our own experiences
and have some pay complete attention and be
interested in what you were saying. Those times
together were times of growing, times of getting
to know each other.

As each person was created uniquely by God
Almighty, the way in which a person feels loved
is just as unique. While some like when the
spouse is helpful around the house, others may
prefer if their spouse would just sit and listen
to them. Some spouses enjoying outdoor activities
together, while others may like indoor
activities, such as reading. No one way to love
fits all people. I, for one, am thankful!

God didn't create us to be robots who
mechanically loved him and others by following a
formula. He designed us to express love
differently depending on who we're matched with.

So how do we love?

The Bible tells us God is love. Anyone who loves
knows God. 1 John 4:7-11 NKJV "Beloved, let us
love one another, for love is of God; and
everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.
8 He who does not love does not know God, for God
is love. 9 In this the love of God was manifested
toward us, that God has sent His only begotten
Son into the world, that we might live through
Him. 10 In this is love, not that we loved God,
but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the
propitiation for our sins. 11 Beloved, if God so
loved us, we also ought to love one another."

The source of our love, the reason we can love at
all is because GOD LOVED US FIRST. He knew, in
advance, we needed help and He set out to deliver
us before we even knew we needed it.

Let me give you a real world example. I recently
took a class on Japanese culture and how it
differs from American culture. It was a very
interesting class! In the Japanese culture, you
are brought up thinking of others. You are taught
to not only to care for the other person's needs
first but to anticipate their needs as well. Just
imagine if everyone anticipated each others
needs, there would be no reason to worry about
your own needs being met. Everyone would be
taking care of them. How beautiful! That, my
friends, is what God did for us. He anticipated
our need for salvation and He took care of it for
us by sending His son, Jesus Christ, to die for
our sins. He did this out of His love for us. We,
too, are called to meet the needs of our spouse,
just as God met our need for salvation.

Are you anticipating your spouse's needs? Have
you even thought about their needs? Or are you so
focused on your own unmet needs you can't begin
to think of theirs? God wants us to love each
other. Part of that means anticipating and
meeting the needs of our spouse.

Having difficulties figuring out how to
anticipate needs? Here's some examples but
remember, everyone's different. You'll have to
investigate or experiment with your spouse on
what works for them.

1) Take his/her clothes to the dry cleaner before
they even ask.
2) Remember to take something out for dinner in
the morning, so the spouse who cooks dinner won't
have to.
3) Make arrangement for a quiet evening out, just
the two of you, to surprise them.
a. Hint: Hire a baby sitter for a solid year.
Plan dates each month, the babysitter will block
off on his/her calendar. Tell the babysitter
you'll pay them whether or not you use them on
those dates. You'll never have to worry about
finding a babysitter again.
4) Leave love notes around the house or in the
car.
5) Straighten up the house.

A good rule of thumb, follow The Golden Rule from
Matthew 7:12 NLT "Do to others whatever you would
like them to do to you."

Lord, thank you for your active love that cares
for our needs before we even realize them. Help
us to love our spouses as you have loved us.
Teach us to anticipate and met their needs so
that your love may be poured over them through
us. Help us discover and carry out meaningful
ways to love our spouse. In Jesus name Amen.

Copyright Elizabeth Marks, author of ThinkOnIt
Devotions, has a heart for encouraging believers
with God's Word. Please visit
http://www.ThinkOnItDevotions.com for more
devotions, bible studies, book reviews and more!

Article Source: http://www.faithwriters.com

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This Weeks Christian Marriage Recommended
Resource:

"Ask your way to intimacy..."

After a few years of marriage, you probably think
that you know everything about your spouse. Do
you really?

This Valentine's week, you are probably planning
some special "alone time" with your better half.
Don't let yourself run out of things to talk
about!

Michael Webb's "1000 Questions for couples: What
you absolutely MUST know about the person you are
with" is the perfect source for interesting
"conversation starters."

This great little book will help you to learn
what you absolutely must know about your spouse.

This book is going to make those difficult
questions much easier to ask.

A special bonus that I really liked was the
option to get 3-5 of the book's questions emailed
to you each day.

While there are a lot of questions in this book
that are crucial for couples in the dating stage,
the majority of the questions are useful for
people who have been married for some time.

If you value your relationship, I urge you to ask
these 1000 Questions for Couples.

You can find this book here:

http://www.christian-sex.net/questions/index.html

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Who are Robert & Susan Irwin?

-Robert and Susan Irwin are Nationally-recognized
authors and speakers.

-They have been asked to appear as Sexual Experts
on radio (The Danny Fontana Show [Inspiration
Network]), television (The Discovery Channel) and
has been published in many magazine (Men's
Health) and newspaper (The Pittsburgh Post
Gazette) articles.

-They are the proud parents of four amazing
children.

-He is the founder and Executive Director of the
Sexual Performance Institute.
-His E-Book, Sexual Skills For The Christian
Husband™ has been one of the world's
best-selling E-Books for over nine years.
-Thousands of men and women, across the globe,
have benefited from their counseling, seminars
and E-Books.

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