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Newsletter: January 23rd 2007

IIn this issue of the Christian Marriage
Secrets Newsletter...

- A Note From The Editors, Robert & Susan Irwin
- This Week’s Christian Marriage Quote
- This Week’s Sexual Relationship Tip
- This Week’s Christian Marriage Secrets Article
- This Week’s Recommended Resource
- Who are Robert & Susan Irwin?
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By Relationship Coaches & Christian Authors:

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This Weeks Christian Marriage Recommended
Resource:

"Instant Sexy Letters To Excite And Seduce Your
Spouse"

Discover the secret tool that happy couples use
to ignite passion and intimacy.

Valentines Day is just around the corner. Don't
let it be "just another day."

Do you want your spouse to be passionately
attracted to you, craving your touch...but you
aren't a natural writer?

Then you have to try "Instant Sexy Letters!"

Picture receiving a sexy letter from your lover
inviting you to a night of sensuous passion? And
in that sexy letter, your spouse describes in
vivid detail, exactly what they are going to do
to you – how they're going to do it – where
they're going to do it to you…

…exactly the way you've always wanted it done.

As you read this sexy letter, each word seems to
penetrate your being, igniting a fire deep inside
you.

Sound yummy?

Well, that's what Instant Sexy Letters will help
YOU do to YOUR spouse.

Imagine making them feel so desired, so adored,
so wanted. All because you sent them a sexy
letter.

But, it's hard to put the perfect words on paper.

So here's the good news:

"Instant Sexy Letters" is a software program that
contains dozens of sexy love letters for you to
send to your spouse...without having to write a
single word. It's all been written for you.

So, writing a sexy love letter is now as easy as
filling out a few forms and pushing a button!

It's the perfect romantic solution for the
"writing challenged!"

Try "Instant Sexy Letters" at:

http://www.christian-sex.net/letters/index.html

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Robert & Susan’s News and Notes:

Naomi Wolf is not a Christian (as far as I know).

She is a feminist writer.

But, as non-Christian, feminist writers go... she
is one of the most inciteful.

I was completely blown away by her analysis of
the negative effects of pornography on society,
in general, and our children, in specific.

I recommend that you read it at:

http://nymag.com/nymetro/news/trends/n_9437/index.html

It should fire you up about both fighting
pornography in your own life and your children's.

Robert

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This Week’s Christian Marriage Secrets Quote:

"A marriage is a witness, like a baptism. The
circle of the ring is a symbol of eternal verity
& the gold a symbol of lasting value."

~Author Unknown

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This Week’s Sexual Relationship Tip:

"You are as sexy as YOU think you are..."

In the real world, most of us are not
supermodels. We are "real" people with the real
signs of aging: stretch marks, extra weight,
etc..

If we wait until we look like the pretty people
in Hollywood or magazines to fully enjoy our
sexuality with our spouse, we might be waiting a
LONG time.

And, the good news is...it is unecessary. We are,
generally, as sexy to our spouse as WE think we
are.

I recently read a study about the reasons that
people stray outside of their marriage. And,
surprisingly, it rarely has anything to do with
the "other person's" attractiveness. Most of the
"other people" were, objectively, no more
attractive (pretty, thinner) than were the
spouses being cheated upon.

But, almost uniformly, they were described with
respect to how they made the cheating spouse
feel. They, supposedly, "understood" the cheating
spouse's "needs" better. They made the cheating
spouse "feel" more attractive and interesting.

What a shame!

We all have the ability to make our spouses feel
better about themselves RIGHT NOW. Do it!

Stop worrying about the fact that you are a
normal, aging, "non supermodel." Do whatevery you
have to do to make your spouse feel needed and
wanted (sexually and otherwise) right now. Don't
wait until it is too late.

Buy something sexy that fits your present body.

Tell your spouse how much you desire them...as
they (and you) are NOW.

In my opinion, the love and sensuality that if
found in our normal, every day, "non supermodel"
lives far surpasses any of the superficial
interactions of any supermodel...any day.

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This week's Christian Marriage Relationship
Article:

"Tips for a Time-Starved Marriage"

By Belinda Elliott


When couples are traveling through life at a
break-neck speed, they can sometimes lose touch
with each other.

In the midst of careers, church activities,
children’s activities, and all the things we fill
our lives with, keeping a close emotional
connection with your spouse can take a back seat
to other matters that seem more pressing at the
time.

Les and Leslie Parrott have been there. Yes, the
endearing couple may be bestselling authors and
marriage counselors, but they admit that they too
have fallen prey to the trap of busyness.

They are in good company. After writing numerous
books on marriage and talking to many married
couples, the Parrotts found that time (or the
lack of it) is the number one issue in a lot of
marriages. What they couldn’t find was a book
that addressed this topic for couples, so they
decided to write one.

Their book, Your Time-Starved Marriage, helps
couples identify how they each relate to time and
learn how to maximize their time together.

Many couples approach the problem of busyness
thinking that it is just a season of life that
they are passing through. This thought pattern
isn’t helpful, the Parrotts said, because time
will always be limited regardless of the stage of
life they are in.

Having been married for 22 years, the Parrotts
have a 3-year-old and an 8-year-old. They said
they find that their busyness revolves around
family activities and work. But newlyweds without
children also report that the problem of busyness
is just as common for them.

Because of this, couples should resist the
mentality that they will wait to achieve their
goals “when they retire” or “after the kids are
grown.”

“Somebody said that some people spend their
entire lives indefinitely preparing to live,” Les
said, “and that is a trap that is easy to get
caught into.”

Instead, couples should focus on capturing the
time they have and making every moment of it
count. The first step in this process is to
identify their unique time styles.

What is Your Time Style?

Everyone relates to time differently. Knowing
your time style, as well as your spouse’s, helps
you relate to each other better.

“It comes down to how you answer two questions,
Les said. “Do you live more in the here and now
or the there and then, meaning are you more
present oriented or more future oriented? And
then the second question is, are you subjective
or objective?”

The answers to those questions place people in
one of the following four categories, or time
styles.

The Dreamer is future oriented and relates to
time subjectively. Dreamers are excited about the
future and have a vision for what it will be.

The Planner is future oriented and relates to
time objectively. Planners enjoy forming a plan
and sticking to a schedule.

The Accommodator is present oriented and relates
to time subjectively. Accommodators enjoy going
with the flow and they try to accommodate time by
making room in their schedule for whatever they
value right now.

The Processor is present oriented and relates to
time objectively. Processors structure their time
and usually have a rhythm to their schedules.
They move through their day steadily and are very
disciplined and punctual.

Spouses rarely have the same time style.

“Les is more future oriented; I’m more present
oriented," Leslie said. “So if we have a date
night, he might want to spend it on an activity
that is all about what’s going to happen a year
from now, and I’m thinking, 'Hey, let’s just go
do something fun for now.’ So even when you
capture time together you might not be in sync.”

Along with their new book, the Parrotts offer
accompanying men’s and women’s workbooks, as well
as an online Time Style Assessment test, to help
readers identify their time style and then
recognize how it impacts the marital
relationship. Each time style has strengths and
weaknesses that contribute to the dynamics in the
marriage.

Can You Find the Time?

While there are many time bandits that contribute
to a couple not having time to spend together,
there are also several areas where couples can
find time they didn’t realize they had. These
“gold mines of time” as the authors describe
them, offer opportunities for the couple to check
in with each other and reconnect.

One such gold mine is found at meal time. In the
age of fast food and drive-thru dinners, families
rarely take the time to truly enjoy a meal
together. It’s doesn’t have to be homemade, but a
family spending time around the dinner table can
produce rich conversation and emotionally reunite
the couple as well as the rest of the family.

Time can also be found in the mundane activities
of life if couples think creatively. Running
errands can not only provide an opportunity for
meaningful conversation, but they can also become
miniature dates.

“We ran an errand in the last year to the DMV to
get a renewed driver’s license,” Les said. “We
parked the car and went in and did what we needed
to do. Then we thought while we were there that
there is a building across the street that has
this observatory downtown in Seattle where we
live. We just took 25 minutes and we went up in
this old fashioned elevator and just kind of made
a little mini date, because the kids were taken
care of and we had parking. It wasn’t anything we
planned, but we knew we could take advantage of
this.”

Make Every Minute Count

There are two important minutes of a marriage to
which couples should pay special attention. The
first one is how they greet each other at the end
of the day.

“So many times we reconnect by saying, ‘Did you
pick up the dry cleaning? Did you get the mail?
What’s for dinner?’” Les said. “It’s kind of a
shopping list approach to it. That one minute of
how you connect at the end of the day, taking
time for some tender touch and so forth, really
can go a long way.”

“The other important minute is just before you
fall asleep,” he said.

And regardless of how much time a couple may feel
that they have lost through the years, they
should not feel regret. It is never too late to
start reconnecting at the points where they have
been missing out.

“Guilt and shame do little if nothing to propel
you to a productive future,” Les said, “so quit
dwelling on the past and regrets of, ‘I wish we
would have done this.’ Use the time that you have
right now.”

Visit www.realrelationships.com

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This Weeks Christian Marriage Recommended
Resource:

"Instant Sexy Letters To Excite And Seduce Your
Spouse"

Discover the secret tool that happy couples use
to ignite passion and intimacy.

Valentines Day is just around the corner. Don't
let it be "just another day."

Do you want your spouse to be passionately
attracted to you, craving your touch...but you
aren't a natural writer?

Then you have to try "Instant Sexy Letters!"

Picture receiving a sexy letter from your lover
inviting you to a night of sensuous passion? And
in that sexy letter, your spouse describes in
vivid detail, exactly what they are going to do
to you – how they're going to do it – where
they're going to do it to you…

…exactly the way you've always wanted it done.

As you read this sexy letter, each word seems to
penetrate your being, igniting a fire deep inside
you.

Sound yummy?

Well, that's what Instant Sexy Letters will help
YOU do to YOUR spouse.

Imagine making them feel so desired, so adored,
so wanted. All because you sent them a sexy
letter.

But, it's hard to put the perfect words on paper.

So here's the good news:

"Instant Sexy Letters" is a software program that
contains dozens of sexy love letters for you to
send to your spouse...without having to write a
single word. It's all been written for you.

So, writing a sexy love letter is now as easy as
filling out a few forms and pushing a button!

It's the perfect romantic solution for the
"writing challenged!"

Try "Instant Sexy Letters" at:

http://www.christian-sex.net/letters/index.html

**********

Who are Robert & Susan Irwin?

- Robert and Susan Irwin are
Nationally-recognized authors and speakers. They
have been asked to appear as Sexual Experts on
radio (The Danny Fontana Show [Inspiration
Network]), television (The Discovery Channel) and
has been published in many magazine (Men's
Health) and newspaper (The Pittsburgh Post
Gazette) articles.
- They are the proud parents of four amazing
children.
- He is the founder and Executive Director of
the Sexual Performance Institute.
- His E-Book, Sexual Skills For The Christian
Husband™ has been one of the world's
best-selling E-Books for over nine years.
- Thousands of men and women, across the globe,
have benefited from their counseling, seminars
and E-Books.

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